My BBQ Heave of Desperation

In order to take some steps toward my BBQ goal, all it took was a heave of desperation!

all set up and ready for fire

all set up and ready for fire

Life happened last year and I thought that I would get back into cooking BBQ when things calmed down. As my friend Jon Acuff shared, “Enough time is a myth, just get going”–simple, yet profound!

BBQ is one of the most uplifting, therapeutic things that I do. The “getting going” for me was simply buying some meat, and starting up the smoker. Just like anything that we want to accomplish–getting back into shape, changing careers, traveling–the thinking and subsequent procrastination, are far worse than the actual effort involved. Once you take that step to get back in the game, there is immediate relief.

Anthony spritzing ribs

Anthony spritzing the ribs

For almost 5 years now, I have been smoking meat. The past couple of years have felt stagnant–partly for “life” as I mentioned, and partly because I hadn’t learned anything knew in my craft. I know how to do ribs, chicken and pulled pork; at least I know how to do them my way. Taking things to the next level, would require getting out of my comfort zone. Now just what would that next level be?

Rick working the sauce

Rick working the sauce

It would be finding a mentor–somebody who creates master-level BBQ and who cooks on the competition circuit. My friend and coach Allan Dubon encouraged me to join some online BBQ groups. I didn’t know why at the time yet saw the wisdom later. The “heave of desperation” that I mentioned was placing the following ad on the Utah BBQ Association’s Facebook Page: “I’m looking to work with a BBQ team to help in anyway that I can. I have been doing backyard BBQ for 5 years now and want to take things to the next level. Will work long hours for little or no pay.”

Have you ever applied for a job where you didn’t feel qualified; they require a Master’s Degree and you technically have one? It takes really stretching your skills so they appear to fit the criteria. It also helps omitting some information–like the fact that you obtained said Master’s Degree in two hours time last evening while watching Fixer Upper. It cost you $128 and was from a supposed institution called the Advanced Learning University of East Timor. Sure you helped fund a rebel-led coup against that country’s government, but you have that piece of paper.

The other option is to simply be honest and pray for a mercy opportunity from someone. What do they have to lose? The latter was my plan, especially knowing that most people on that forum were seasoned and competed on the BBQ circuit. “I guess he could clean my dishes as long as he stays out of my way” they likely thought.

A day or so went by and I started to think that no one cared. And then I got one message back. It simply stated, “I can teach you how to scrape chicken.” Okay, I do need to learn how to do that better only having learned it once. From there, we exchanged messages and arranged a time and place. He was preparing for a competition that next weekend. My coming to his house would simply be an extension of his preparation.

I showed up to his house on a Friday night. We started about 8:00pm and the doctorate program in BBQ began. I have learned a lot over the years, but it was all the extra little things he did that made me so impressed with his BBQ. It was smoked to a quality I had never known. He cooked with an enthusiasm unknown to mankind.

From that initial chicken-scraping lesson, came another opportunity to prep pork butt, brisket and ribs. I have cooked all of these meats before, but never to this level. And from that came an opportunity to intern with his team at a BBQ Competition. The stakes were now raised.

The Competition was the Mark Miller BBQ Showdown in Salt Lake City; sanctioned by the Utah BBQ Association. I showed up after 7:00pm on Friday night. We had dinner, then went over a game plan. Some prep happened that night and it was time for a little rest around 1:30am. That rest wasn’t long as we were back at it early.

They're simply beautiful

They’re simply beautiful

I cannot begin to describe the level of intensity, fun and even exhaustion. Turn in happens on Saturday at 12:00pm, 12:30pm 1:00pm and 1:30pm respectively; it’s like the amazing race. When it’s over, and you are waiting for the awards ceremony, you almost forget your own name. That is either because of the lack of sleep, or the near delirium from an intense BBQ aroma (not a pleasant one) now deeply infused in your skin.

In the days following the competition, I received many texts and FB messages asking about the event. My answer was the same each time: “I loved it and knew that I had to participate to take things to the next level. I knew that I would always regret not getting into the game.”

Chicken turn-in time

Chicken turn-in time

Last year I shared in a post how I have sold real estate for a decade longer than I have cooked BBQ; yet more people know me for BBQ than home sales. In those 5 years of smoking meat, many have asked me to teach them as they claim that they have always wanted to learn. I have kept an open invite. Do you know how many of those invitees have showed up over the years–just one!

The 11th hour delirium setting in

The 11th hour delirium setting in

This is not a condemnation of people who have feigned interest in something and then not attended when the opportunity arrived–I have been that person more than once in my life. The thought of not attending the BBQ competition even crossed my mind–“I know enough,” “it will be a late night,” “life is busy already” were temptations that I had to face. BUT I knew that when this opportunity came–from the one person who replied to my heave of desperation–that I best show-up, smile and get to work.

Where does the road of life take you–to unknown joy, but you will only find that once you start the car. Stay hungry my friends.

Special thanks to Anthony and Rick with Smoke Ain’t No Joke BBQ. Your tutelage is a gift that I treasure. To many more times of good food, BBQ competitions and watching baseball.

Awards presentation. Our name was not called but the education could not have been better.

Awards presentation. Our name was not called but the education could not have been better.


Faking it until Burnout!

Last week I was reading a blog post by bestselling Author Jon Acuff. He wrote about the time he was sitting in the parking lot of his work in Atlanta, and how he hated having to go there. He wanted to write, he wanted to speak, he wanted to travel. He had done none of those things. For 25 years he had lied to himself. Essentially he said that he would do it tomorrow.

For myself, there have been plenty of “tomorrows.” The biggest one being–when am I going to get to my dream? There have been traces of it over the years–becoming a Certified BBQ judge, writing for City Weekly, being interviewed on podcasts and news publications, being invited to dine at restaurants in exchange for a review. Why I let those things die is a question that I still ask myself. Practicality seemed to be what allowed me to push that burning question to yet another day.

Back in August, I held a Cajun Shrimp Boil in my backyard. My sister came, so did a family that lives in the neighborhood. They loved the food and I reveled in the preparation and serving. Cajun food and BBQ have become my cooking focus. For a naturally impatient person such as me, to then gravitate towards a cooking process that can be 12+ hours, is a question for the universe to answer.


During the shrimp boil, I was telling our neighbor how I have sold real estate for 13 years and have been really into cooking, especially Cajun & BBQ, for just over 4 years. To this day, I still get the question of “you sell real estate?” from someone enjoying either a plate of ribs with a side of smoked beans or devouring a simmering plate of chicken & sausage gumbo. These are often people that I have known for a while. This use to frustrate me, now I am beginning to see the meaning.

While I love the cooking, it isn’t very lucrative at present. It’s more in the hobby phase. But I am recognizing the sun is setting on the season of real estate sales in my life. I don’t reach my potential there because I am burned out. Do I force it–that is what I have done for years–in every aspect of my life.

In Mr Acuff’s referenced blog post, he talked about how overwhelming it was to think about the long term plan of what he wanted to do. He couldn’t pay off his house today, but he could work on paying a little extra on his car loan. He couldn’t leave his job and become a paid speaker today, but he could write a few hundred words by getting up a little earlier.

Well I can’t leave my job today just to chase a dream. There is something called reality that I need to acknowledge. But I can write this blog post today, I can reach out to a coach, I can join a mastermind. It’s the little things done consistently that get us a long way towards our dream. I have been looking for the grandiose shortcut. For that, I am still looking.


I’ve always wanted to have the answer–the answer to what I should do in life. Well, life will drop you plenty of clues. Faking it only gets you so far. Recently there has been a peace within myself to say that I don’t have the answer right now. I don’t exactly know what is next and I especially don’t know how to get to where I want to be. But I can do something today–something small and something meaningful.

To our dreams and beyond!





May I Know Your Weaknesses Please?

What a crazy article title right? Who wants to focus on their weaknesses? What a drag this would be. But the truth is, don’t we do it all the time? I’m not saying that we actually do anything about it, but we focus on it with a magnifying glass.

A couple of weeks ago, my sister-in-law went to see a neighbor who needs help with his business. He runs a hospice office and is great at getting new business and consulting. But do you know what he hates–the details like keeping the books. My sister-in-law is great at numbers; she loves the details.

For a long time in my real estate career, I have always worried about what I am not good at (and there are many things). What I do love is prospecting, meeting with people, signing up new clients and negotiating. What I am not good at are (just like my neighbor) the details. If that part is left up to me, it won’t happen. When I sign up a deal, I am excited for a minute and then back in the car I think, “now I need to order photographs, and a sign, and fill out the MLS input form, and get the home on the MLS, and open title.” It’s enough to make me want to scream. It reminds me of the time right out of college where I got a job staring at an excel spreadsheet all day. To say that I was unexcited, uninspired and unmotivated would be an understatement; more like borderline suicidal.

So what have I learned over the years (although maybe not quick enough) is to delegate. The secretary at my office can do some of these tasks. Others items have been handled by setting up a system. It helps to do something about the work to be done, rather than procrastinating–my old demon.

Now what about things where we are weak but we WANT to get better? As mentioned, some things are just not a fit and never will be. However, we all have those visions or dreams of things we keep telling ourselves that we should do. Months, years and even decades go by. All the while we seek for a calmer time–when the kids are a little older (my current excuse), or when we are financially secure, or when we just simply have more time. I started really investing time in learning to cook when I was 32 . At age 35, I took swimming lessons (INSERT LINK). A couple years into my cooking journey, I had the guts to do something I feared–I started writing about that journey; hence this blog today. Getting in the game has led to some great adventures.

As I look back on some of those early articles and cooking creations, I realize that they weren’t pretty. Some of you may still feel that way as you read this. There is something powerful however, about writing and hitting publish even when you feel like it’s not perfect.

Maybe by taking that one step towards what you fear, it gives it permission to move just a little further away from you.

Happy Learning.

Where did that time go?

In listening to a friend give a talk in church years ago, he shared how it seems that the days are slow but the years are fast. He elaborated on that: we have so many commitments that one 24 hour routine can take a while. But then it’s time for another birthday, another Christmas, another celebration. And often, another reminder that we quite haven’t done what we set out our hearts to do. There is always next year right?

Last evening we were at back to school night for my daughter. She is 5 years old and will be starting kindergarten today. In one hour, I will be helping her get ready. This is an emotional time for me as I have spent so much time with her over the years. I often took her to preschool and picked her up; went shopping with her; wandered the neighborhood; went to visit grandparents and went to the treat store (almost daily on that last one). Often days felt long as I was in my routine with her–get up, do some work, get her up, get her ready, get her to school, do a lot of work, pick her up, feed her lunch, get her some quiet time, do some more work and then get ready for the next day.

Now in a few months she will be 6 and I am saying, “where did those years go.” The last year in particular. As I wrote in the post last fall, “And So I Write,” I loved the opportunity to write my food blog for a number of years. It was especially fun to write for City Weekly where I got paid to write and eat. What a joy. That ended when the publication, like many, decided to cut back. This was last October and actually came at a good time.

My wife was getting ready to make a transition from her firm to opening her own consulting business. It took much time and energy, both physical and mental. I needed to be there for that. My real estate work has been busy. With all the commitments, I really felt pulled in too many different directions. When that happens, you are not doing your best work–on anything.

I kept telling myself that I will write again once I get pass this particular deal, project, fatigue, etc. The days have certainly been long, one phone call can make it longer it seems. And now almost a year has gone by; a year since I was writing regularly. They say that when you let go of something, either it will drop out of your life completely (which for some things is good), or the pull to do it will get stronger. I have ignored the pull to do it.

Can’t do the ignoring any longer. Yesterday, I pulled off the side of road and wrote down what my rocking chair regrets would be. The main one–“not writing.” Maybe it’s not exactly practical, but it’s therapeutic and fun for me. It lifts me up. It gives me energy.

What is the one thing you have been ignoring? The one thing you keep saying you will get to tomorrow? Tomorrow never comes.

Tomorrow Never Comes

In my early teenage years, I had a Sunday School teacher who a very dynamic man. His career had been one of financial success with business deals throughout the world. Many experiences in that arena and also with his family, had taught him some great lessons in life. He shared those with us more often than anything from the scriptures or handbook. He was kind, he was compassionate, he was wonderful. All these years later and some of those lessons still resonate with me.

He was also very heavy. Not that this mattered to us–it was just one aspect of his weight which he shared that I still remember. The extra weight he had carried for many years had really worn out his knees–they both needed to be replaced. In order for the doctor to replace the knees, he had to lose some weight. He was very open about always wanting to start tomorrow. Even though tomorrow is only one day away, it can really be weeks, months, years or even decades; it’s up to us.

For the last few months, tomorrow hasn’t come. I am not pretending to be Bill Murray in the movie Groundhog Day, but I keep telling myself that I will do something tomorrow. That something is writing. For those of you who follow me here on this blog, you know how much, and how frequently, I would post restaurant reviews, recipes and life lessons. It was all exciting and really lit me up inside.

Back in October, I wrote about how my column with City Weekly was ending. Print media has been dying a slow death for years and the wave finally hit this publication (not in it’s entirety but a good half of the columns are gone). This really hit me hard. I couldn’t believe that I had that opportunity–to get paid to review restaurants.

When this happened, my wife was working on a transition from being an employee to an independent contractor. This plan had been in the works for months and we were making it a reality. There was so much work for her to do; so many details that took a lot of time and emotion. I told myself that I would take a few weeks of not writing and get through the transition.

Well a few weeks later we were into the Holidays–time for me to do some cooking for Thanksgiving, then it was time for me to smoke 120 pounds of meat for our church party in December, then Christmas was here, then New Years, then a visit to Florida. And on top of that, the kids are young and busy everyday so there are many demands on my time. Real estate was on fire, leading to the busiest winter I have ever had. “As soon as I get these next few deals closed, then I back to writing” I told myself.

The days turned into weeks and then into months. We all have many demands on our time. On the show Restaurant Impossible, Chef Robert Irvine travels the country to help failing restaurants. He is quite fit and a reporter asked him how he stays in good shape with his busy travel schedule. He said that he gets his workout in each morning period–no excuses. Well I have been busy, but I also have been using a lot of excuses. It’s time to get things done!

This is my tomorrow. And like the first workout after a time away from exercise, it feels good!

And so I BBQ


Ribs N' Brisket

You know that feeling of not knowing what to do? You get introduced to someone and have no idea what to say. You commit to something and have no plan how you will make it happen. You want to break an old habit–or start a new one–and don’t know where to begin. It’s easy to get lost in the research. We can always wait for the perfect time–when the stars are just aligned. I even hesitate hitting the publish button on this blog at times thinking it’s not quite ready. I heard the story from Dan Miller of a guy he knew who took a job at a bank until he figured out what he really wanted to do with his life. 17 years later, he was still at the bank.

Well, my wife may never accuse me of doing too much research on something to pull the trigger. To take another line from Dan, I am a “ready, fire, aim” kind of guy. It may drive her crazy, yet we now know how to play to each other strengths–she researches and I pull the trigger.

This isn’t a column about the intricacies of how my wife and I communicate. If it were, I’m sure you would have already clicked off the page. It’s about taking a step even if you don’t know where that step will lead.

It has been a relatively short amount of time (29 months) that I have owned a smoker. That very first day I threw on a slab of beef ribs given to us from my in-laws. I don’t even know if I put rub on it. It was turn the heat on, throw them on the smoker, and hope that I would know when they were done. A few hours later they were done alright; and they were nasty! Was it a bad herd of grain-fed cows–sure! Was it also that I had no idea what to do–you bet! Here I had this beautiful smoker and I wasn’t even sure how to really make it sing & dance.

A few months after that first slab of ribs, I joined the Kansas City Barbeque Society; even taking classes on how to judge BBQ competitions. Wait a minute? I was learning how to judge the taste, appearance and tenderness of meat that I didn’t know how to cook myself? Well yes! They say that those who don’t know how–teach; and those who don’t know how to teach–write books for those teachers to use. All these years after college and that line finally makes sense.

Yes I felt hypocritical as I was being trusted with judging people’s competition turn-ins; people who put their whole heart, souls and money into this. But what I was really doing was finding out was fabulous meat looked and tasted like. I was blown away at that first competition. Wow, these BBQ contestants made some stuff that paled in comparison to any restaurant meat that I had ever tasted. From there I knew that I had to learn the fundamentals. It can taste good, but how? I never could have imagined what a process it could be.

From that very first judging class at the Casablanca resort in Mesquite, NV, a door opened. Casinos are built like labryinths to confuse and disorient. That way you spend more money. While looking for the ballroom where the class was to be held, I met a couple who were obviously looking for the same class. We struck up a conversation and ended up sitting next to each other inside. That turned out to be Ira Pupko of Hog Heaven BBQ Co. in Temecula, CA. His help with my ribs and pork shoulder would become invaluable.

The spring after becoming a certified BBQ judge (again, the irony had not left me by this point), I was judging the KCBS Sam’s Club Invitational and heard someone at the table next to me say that Pat from Pat’s BBQ was there. The very next week I was eating lunch at Pat’s, saw him in the hall and 15 minutes into conversation later we had a tentative agreement to BBQ together. He really is an institution around Salt Lake and I learned some valuable insights from him.

For my birthday in summer 2014, my wife got me one of the greatest presents ever–a competition BBQ class. Rub Bagby from Swamp Boys BBQ in Winter Haven, FL was coming to Salt Lake for a competition and he was bringing his Q school with him. Yes it was over 100 degrees (thankfully we were in a covered picnic area) but here was a guy who has won the Jack Daniel’s National–a big deal in the BBQ community. I was the novice there as everyone was part of a team–a team that competed. At first they seemed a little confused as to why I was there; I shared their confusion. By the end of that second day, they were teaching me so much that I could keep up. Now I have standing initiations to come and be part of their BBQ team during competitions. No better way to learn.

I love Rub’s humility. He is a school teacher in Florida and could not buy his way into BBQ like so many try–all the meat, equipment and travel is expensive. If you have loads of money, why not just spend some serious cash and get famous that way? That approach rarely works in life. Rub took a few extra bucks each month, bought meat and practicing cooking. He joined forums–getting involved with like minded individuals. The single best thing he taught me was this: “how bad do you want it?” You can do anything if you want it bad enough. He went to competitions and got his butt kicked for years before his BBQ career really took off.

How many of us are afraid to jump in the ring because we are afraid we will lose or not be perfect? You learn more by getting in the game than you do by researching the same game. I have been guilty of “I’m not quite ready yet” or “I just need more time.” You know what you want, just go for it–you will be delighted at what you will find!


I Write for Fun, and for FOOD!

Belgian Waffle Inn Breakfast

The Title of this article might sound a little arrogant or self-serving. That is far from my intent. When I began this journey in 2011, it was to keep an online journal of recipes. From there it morphed into reviewing restaurants. Not for pay but for fun. I remember the looks the waitresses gave me when I would pull out my camera and snap a picture. One even said, “are you trying to make someone jealous.” My reply: “you have no idea.” I was trying to make everyone jealous. Isn’t that the point of social media?

It was when Siam Orchid first contacted me to come in and review their food that I felt the reach of the platform. When I wouldn’t post for a few days, I would get messages wondering where my next review was. And then came City Weekly. What a great experience to write a column for them almost weekly for 2 years. Not every good thing lasts but every good thing does open new doors, it’s just up to us to walk through them.

What I did love about writing for a well-known newspaper in the Salt Lake area, was that I had near instant credibility. When I would contact a restaurant, it was typically a warm welcome, a chance to eat a few entrees, and to hear the owner’s story–oh how I love this–not just writing about the taste and quality of the food, but the journey. Some restaurants never returned my call–I wrote anyway. Some contacted me and thanked me after the column was published. Some even told me the reaction to the article: how one place sold out of food for the few days following the publication (thank you Charlotte Rose’s Carolina BBQ); another had a noticeable uptick in business for 2 months after the article came out (thank you Alice’s Restaurant); another contacted me and said that I must have a lot of followers because they didn’t know where the business was coming from–until someone showed them the article (thank you Bosna); another offered to have me work there for a few days or weeks if I wanted to write a much more in-depth feature (thank you Fiana Bistro).

The highs in life don’t always stay that way forever. It was sad to me when driving through downtown Salt Lake last week that Good Dog was closed. I loved their gourmet hot dogs and getting to know the owner, Josh. In late summer, another personal favorite closed, Charlotte Rose’s Carolina BBQ. Maybe it was road construction, maybe it was a tough location. Maybe it was part of the large percentage of restaurants that don’t stay open for even a year. Whatever the reason, it’s hard to see Trae not have his place anymore.

I love pulling for them, for the little guy, for the food, for the passion. It’s difficult to watch some not make it. I admire that they tried and hope to see their next place again soon. Until then, it’s always interesting to drive with me–i’m always looking around around saying, “what restaurant is that,” or “hey, that place looks good.”

Smokin Chicken N' Ribs

On that note, time to get the brisket and ribs prepped for my growing infatuation with BBQ.

Happy Eating


And So I Swim, and Hurt

During the summer of 2013, I hired a swim coach. Improving my aquatic ability was something that I longed for yet didn’t get around to for a while. I wrote about my experience here. It was a lot of work and led me down the path to my primary form of exercise today.

Swimming is quite enjoyable for me now, especially since fine tuning my form with the  coach. I use to try to jog but found that pure misery. About 4 times a week, I am at the Rec Center to get my exercise. The pool is 25 meters long and when I started with the coach, I couldn’t go 100 meters without a break. At the beginning of the lesson, you were afraid that you would drown; by the end, you were afraid you wouldn’t.

As time has gone on, I have continually pushed myself. I started with taking a break every 100 meters. Then I got up to 200 meters. Then 300, 350 and finally 500 without a break. Now I must interject here, these lengths are nothing for some of you on swim teams or performing triathlons, and I understand that. For me, I am a natural sprinter so I am hitting it hard with each stroke to feel accomplished. Plus I am not training for the Olympics. At 36, I kind of think that ship has sailed. For the first time in my life, I actually like exercise.

Now my workout is 1000 meters in approximately 30 minutes. It was 32 minutes a few weeks back but my last time was 27. Now earlier I mentioned how I push myself. I think that this is good for all of us but we need to know our limits. Two weeks ago I went for a swim. We had all been sick as a family and I was just starting to get better. I had not been in the pool for a week and, knowing that my energy was low, I was really trying to pace myself–for a moment. A few hundred meters in however and the demons of self destruction took over.

At 500 meters (my usual rest time), I thought that I didn’t need a break and would be proud of myself if I went further than before without a rest. At 800 meters, I really was starting to feel the wear. Remember, my body was recovering from illness. At 1000 meters I had the crazy thought of why not swim further than I ever have? A few weeks back, I had swam 1100 meters but 1000 was my usual stopping point. At 1150, I thought that I should go 50 more to make it an even 1200. Finally, at 1200 meters I got out of the pool. Was I awesome or what?

Not quite. You know that “it hurts good” feeling after a workout–the one where you pushed your body and got your endorphins going? Yeah, I didn’t have that! I hurt bad. I knew that it wasn’t good the way my joints and overall body felt. It felt foreign to me and was a little scary.

It has taken nearly 2 weeks to feel decent again. It was as if the oil warning light went off in my car and I said, “well, let’s get to our destination quicker and then I will look at the problem.” Bad choice. My wife says that I have a sickness of never feeling like I have done enough. Because of this I run at super high octane and then burn out. And when I am burned out, I can barely get the basics done. There are things to embrace about this cycle, but it can be limiting.

I don’t just do it with swimming, but with work, with writing and with projects. Going at full speed and checking things off my task list is a rush that I love. The problem is that I rush the rush and leave many things out; things that I need to go back and fix later. So many times I have pushed the PUBLISH button on this blog and then read it–oops, should have proofread that sooner.

It’s so foreign to me to actually take things at a decent pace. But for the first time in my life, it feels like I am getting things done right. There are less items being checked off my list and I am also realizing that it’s better to have less on the list, and to make those things remaining count. If you juggle six things, you will do them all poorly.

When on a particular day a couple weeks after my 1200 meter death sprint, I told my wife that I was deciding whether to go swimming or not because my body ached, she replied with this: “If it were anyone but you, I would tell them to go and enjoy, it would be good for them. But since you aren’t capable of that, I would tell you not to go.” Oh I went, maybe to spite her and maybe not (I’ll never say publicly) and I took 8 minutes longer to swim my normal distance. Did I feel like a failure because I took longer? Well yes, at first. But surrendering what doesn’t work, even if it is a lifelong habit, is incredibly relieving.

It’s kind of exhausting rushing through everything. Hopefully a little lesson about pacing myself and enjoying what I do–from an exercise session in the pool–can be applied to all aspects of life.



And So I Write

The funny thing in life is that we all crave security. We desire everything to progress but with little difficulty. Ironically, the place that has the most security, and that has all your needs taken care of is prison. We all want that dream job but want it to come to us. We want to make a change in some aspect of our life but will start tomorrow. And then many tomorrows later we are still waiting for the right time.

Back in 2011 & 2012 I wrote for Hometown Slop and I mean that I really wrote–3 times a week consistently. There was a lot of reaction as people were noticing the platform. I really loved it and felt in the zone. Restaurant invites came; as did invitations to food shows and cateing events. Never could I have dreamed that simply getting in the game would lead to so much.

And then in February, 2013 something wonderful happened. City Weekly, a local publication in the Salt Lake area, invited me to write for them. The stars did align because a friend of mine, who is a freelance sports writer, had done some work for them and introduced me to the editors. My friend only did that after following my blog  He didn’t just do it because he felt like it. There was a natural show of confidence there and one that I appreciated very much. The editor asked me to pitch some ideas and the pattern of being a regular contributor was born.

Dan Miller, famous Life & Career coach, says that we interview for our jobs everyday whether we realize it or not. There is a joke in the real estate industry that you wake up everyday unemployed. 11 years in that field and I know exactly what that means. The same thing as a contributor–I was not an employee and therefore had no guarantee of consistent work. I had to Pitch them ideas and then was given the green light to write. It would have been great for me for them to say, “here is your column, just write what you want and have it submitted each Thursday at Noon.” But that didn’t happen, I had to prove my value.

When I became a contributor to the Second Helping Column, it started taking a lot of my focus. The 325 word column wasn’t just about sitting down and spending an hour writing. I would research restaurants, write a compelling pitch and if accepted, I would reach out to the restaurant and hope to sit down with the Chef, Owner or both. From there it was getting a draft to my proofer, make the recommended changes and then submit to the editor. Often I was a little worn out by the time I got the final draft submitted at Noon on a Thursday.

I got use to being a contributor and honestly most of the pitches I sent to my editor were approved. It was fun. As life had more demands on it I dropped the regular blog writing and just focused on the column. It wasn’t as regular but I was busy. I missed the consistency of 3 times a week.

We all want change but want it to happen to someone else. Our change should be gradual and when we feel like it so that there is no discomfort right? Not always! Late last week I received an e-mail from City Weekly that as a result of their page count dropping, they will be publishing the Second Helping Column only sporadically; maybe once a month.

What? But I was in the zone. There is the saying, “don’t cry because it’s over, be grateful that it happened. In 2011 I set a goal of becoming a Food Writer. It took a lot of work regularly writing on my blog and in early 2013 I was published; and continued to be so. This has opened the door to many opportunities and will continue to do so.

Thank you for your support. I may be thrown out of my comfort zone some but that is where we grow. If anything, this has shown me what is possible when you get in the game.

Happy Eating and Writing.

I Had a Second Child and Got Depressed!

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In addition to “where have you been?” I have also heard “I haven’t seen much from you lately” and “Are you still doing food reviews?” In the book that I am writing, I share the experience of getting a call from a restaurant regarding a review that I had posted. Honestly, I didn’t even know how many people were following the blog–analytics were never my strong suit. Lately I have heard from people wondering where I have been.

In 2011, I started the blog as an online journal. In that year and also 2012 I posted 3 times a week and was extremely dedicated. 2013 turned out to be a busy year for work and also I had a 3 year old and a pregnant wife who was sick almost every day. I told myself that I didn’t have time to post that often so I would just do my weekly columns with the local paper. Our son was born in November of 2013 and if I thought that I didn’t have much time before his birth, now it was even worse.

Then a funny thing happened: I got depressed. Not because I don’t love my family or enjoy spending time with them, but because I took away one of the things that brings me joy. In Jon Acuff’s book, START, he shares the story of seeing a band playing to 13,000 people in a large arena. It was a phenomenal concert he shared. Then a few weeks later a friend invited him to hear the same band at a house party. They were going to play in someone’s living room. He expected it to be a toned down event but the band played with the same energy and enthusiasm to 30 people in a living room that they did to 13,000 in an arena. They did their “awesome” and it didn’t matter how many heard them.

When I got away from writing regularly because I didn’t have time, the joy in life started to disappear. Sure it sounds nice to sacrifice yourself because of other’s needs and I do that. But when then tank is empty, you have nothing left to give; no help to offer. If I don’t manage my time, it manages me. When I make time to write, then I have time for everything else that needs to be done. When I don’t make the time, everything collects into one depressed mass.

I am making the needed changes because Writing is my “awesome.” Some readers comment on my stories with excitement, others threaten me with libel. And many, if not most, I only hear from when I disappear. They need a restaurant recommendation and I have not posted anything lately. They want to hear about my last adventure but there isn’t one to read. I write because I love it and it lights me up. I am so grateful for those that have reminded me of that lately.

Thank You

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