May I Know Your Weaknesses Please?

What a crazy article title right? Who wants to focus on their weaknesses? What a drag this would be. But the truth is, don’t we do it all the time? I’m not saying that we actually do anything about it, but we focus on it with a magnifying glass.

A couple of weeks ago, my sister-in-law went to see a neighbor who needs help with his business. He runs a hospice office and is great at getting new business and consulting. But do you know what he hates–the details like keeping the books. My sister-in-law is great at numbers; she loves the details.

For a long time in my real estate career, I have always worried about what I am not good at (and there are many things). What I do love is prospecting, meeting with people, signing up new clients and negotiating. What I am not good at are (just like my neighbor) the details. If that part is left up to me, it won’t happen. When I sign up a deal, I am excited for a minute and then back in the car I think, “now I need to order photographs, and a sign, and fill out the MLS input form, and get the home on the MLS, and open title.” It’s enough to make me want to scream. It reminds me of the time right out of college where I got a job staring at an excel spreadsheet all day. To say that I was unexcited, uninspired and unmotivated would be an understatement; more like borderline suicidal.

So what have I learned over the years (although maybe not quick enough) is to delegate. The secretary at my office can do some of these tasks. Others items have been handled by setting up a system. It helps to do something about the work to be done, rather than procrastinating–my old demon.

Now what about things where we are weak but we WANT to get better? As mentioned, some things are just not a fit and never will be. However, we all have those visions or dreams of things we keep telling ourselves that we should do. Months, years and even decades go by. All the while we seek for a calmer time–when the kids are a little older (my current excuse), or when we are financially secure, or when we just simply have more time. I started really investing time in learning to cook when I was 32 . At age 35, I took swimming lessons (INSERT LINK). A couple years into my cooking journey, I had the guts to do something I feared–I started writing about that journey; hence this blog today. Getting in the game has led to some great adventures.

As I look back on some of those early articles and cooking creations, I realize that they weren’t pretty. Some of you may still feel that way as you read this. There is something powerful however, about writing and hitting publish even when you feel like it’s not perfect.

Maybe by taking that one step towards what you fear, it gives it permission to move just a little further away from you.

Happy Learning.

Double Your Income In 6 Months

Double your income in 6 months–well, doesn’t that sound like something you would see on a late night infomercial. You feel burned out and the temptation gets you so you look up the address, and for only $199.95 you can have a package that shows you how to double your income. You feel cheated, close the screen and live to dream another day.

Having listened to podcasts and keeping my nose in self-improvement books for a few years now, it becomes obvious who is genuine and who is not. The ones who peddle themselves all over social media trying to make you feel bad for your life, are the ones who die out.

So it caused me to stop and think when on the podcast that it my personal favorite, 48 Days to the work you love, Host Dan Miller said that you can double your income in 6 months. I have met this guy, followed him, believe in his material so this time I thought that it would be worth listening to.

I honestly expected a long, complicated process with multiple meetings and interventions. What I heard was anything but. Dan very simply shared that the quickest way to double your income was to fill your mind with uplifting and inspirational material. He long has been a fan of the timeless classic, “Think and Grow Rich” by Earl Nightingale. In this book, Mr Nightingale talks about how we become What we think about, and we think about what we put into our minds.

If we fill our minds with news, gossip and rumors, that is what we believe is going on in the world and that is what we expect. Years ago, I would listen to talk radio for a few hours each day. I would watch both the national and local evening news. You don’t realize how hooked you are on something until you get away from it. I started eliminating those things one by one. Initially I felt withdrawal as there was a void. How was I going to fill that time? What will I do if I don’t know what is going on all the time?

Slowly a void began to be filled. I started reading more biographies and self-improvement material. I turned off the radio and checked out books on CD from the library. I joined automobile university as Dan Miller would say. After a while, I noticed the cravings for news & gossip diminish. I deleted the news apps from my phone.

So I was improving but how was this going to increase my income? The authors of the books I was reading were not going to send me a check; they didn’t even know I had their book. I expected the increase in revenue to come from my writing. I had been food writing for 4 years and just assumed that it would happen here; maybe I just wanted it to happen there without knowing how. I know how un-lucrative that can be as blogging is not necessarily a business.

Well it did happen, in real estate. How did it happen–from all the self-improvement and success tips from the books, podcasts, magazines and CD’s. I couldn’t believe how much more efficient I was. There was less time being spent on things that were not productive. I began to understand being busyness vs productivity. I began to understand myself better and where my gifts lie.

It was amazing and still is. Yes it can be done. Decide what you are going to invest your time in and get a foot in the door. Regardless of your industry and if you want to make a transition or not, fill your mind with positive uplifting things and you may just look back after a while and say, “WOW.”

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